No matter how old we are, we are always learning, growing and changing. While children go through changes and phases quickly, adults tend to go through different phases that can last months or years. The fact is that none of us are stagnant: We are not the same person that we were last year or even last month.
This can be a great thing since we can learn new skills and become better, more well-rounded individuals. But for couples, it can mean that they grow in different directions and no longer share the same values or a connection at all. If you are currently going through a phase where you are failing to connect with your spouse, you may be going through a midlife crisis. The following are some signs that you could be going through a midlife crisis, and whether these signs mean that you should get divorced.
Feeling a need for adventure
If you’re in a place in life where you’re settled down and financially secure, you may not crave risk and adventure. You may dream of traveling, or you may be attracted to people other than your spouse. You should take the time to question whether these feelings are connected to your dissatisfaction with your marriage or due to another life situation such as your job.
Becoming angry or expressing blame
When you are dealing with an internal conflict, you may try to point the finger at your spouse even if there is no reason to. Make sure that you reflect on why you are feeling angry and whether you are projecting anger toward yourself onto your spouse.
Going through a midlife crisis could be a sign that you need to make some big changes in your life. However, it does not necessarily mean that divorce is going to solve anything. It is important that you do some soul-searching and look into all of your options, including what divorce could look like for you.