Tips On How to Beat a Narcissist in Family Court
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edition (more popularly referred to as the DSM-IV) describes Narcissistic Personality Disorder as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy.
The defining characteristics of a narcissist make him or her exploitative and arrogant. When you argue with a narcissist, it generally goes nowhere. Add a custody battle to the situation and the situation may get much worse.
Forbes suggests that there are specific ways to fight for custody against a narcissist.
Do not attempt to make a diagnosis or use the word “narcissist”
You might feel tempted to call your ex a narcissist. Even if his or her behavior fits the description, do not play the role of a psychologist. Instead, be clear about the toxic and narcissistic behavior that he or she commits. Show the court how it affects your children, rather than make any claim about his or her mental condition.
Do keep a record of events
Try to keep all your records organized. If you truly believe that your spouse may be a narcissist, have videos of your spouse’s treatment of your children or yourself ready to show the court. Narcissists harm their children’s mental health thro. In court, you can claim that your spouse has manipulated, exploited or otherwise ignored the best interests of your children, but you need to keep track of any evidence.
Do not be confrontational
Confrontation will not look good on your record. The more reasonable you are, the more likely the courts will favor you. Even when it is difficult, try to be reasonable with visitation. If your ex sends you a negative communication, do not return it. Instead, keep your tone straightforward and polite. While politeness matters, do not accept lies either. If your ex tells a false statement about an event in your marriage, challenge the story.